There are three tings that are closely connected, and effects the way we relate to our selves to God and others, and the way we can reach out to a broken, fearful, depressed and sinful world. It is also Important for your mental and physical healing.
Your picture of God – How do you see God and how do you think he sees you? Your picture of yourself – Your picture of your creator, the way you think he looks at you, reflects also how you look at yourselves. Your picture of other people. – The way you think God is towards you, the same way you will think he is to other people. Like: If you think God is constantly angry at you, you will get angry at other people, and your self the same way.
Many Christians fear that they have not been forgiven by God because they have not yet been able to fully forgive others. They want to forgive, but they still have negative feelings towards those who have hurt them.
They can easily be condemned by what Jesus is saying in Matthew 18:35, that if we do not forgive our neighbor with our heart, God will not forgive us, but reject us and punish us, which makes us have the fear that God has not forgiven us. I often skipped this scripture and was afraid of it myself, I wished it was not there because I feared that I had not forgiven all who have hurt me perfectly, but now I have seen something I want to show you, and I will give you an answer to why Jesus said what he said.
What about the first letter of John saying that God does not forgive us before we have confessed our sins? If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just, so he forgives us from sin and purifies us from all unrighteousness.
This is a scripture many use to explain that God has not forgiven us until we have made up for our sin and asked for forgiveness. It may seems, when we read this, that God has not forgiven us until we do the next sin and that we constantly must remember to ask forgiveness to remain forgiven, but is this so?